Borrowed this from Dave hope he doesn't mind top bloke is Dave, read his story on his page.
I always find it more interesting when I have some idea as to whom I am talking to, so here I am.
I am on the over the hill side of 60, and have always lived in Australia and mostly in South East Queensland
I achieved Junior High School as my academic pass, in my younger years I tended our family 1/4 acre market garden plot, and I also helped the dairy farmer across the creek at milking times morning and night.
As we lived in a semi-rural district walking to school was the "norm". In my case that entailed a 3 mile hike cutting across a creek and a large snake infested pastureland, so killing the odd snake on the way to and from school was the accepted, as it was for all others in the district.
The school was a two room, Headmaster and teacher affair, so it was fairly small as schools went.
As a teenager I helped my father with his lawn mowing contract work, in any out of school daylight hours, including all holiday periods.
I am a Jack of all trades, starting working life in a biscuit factory and working my way through Storeman, Paint salesman, Assistant Manager at a Supermarket, through my Lawn mowing business to Mower Mechanic and Supervisor in the communication industry to ill health attributed to my last career path and doing unhealthy shift work. In all that I managed to fit some time in the Royal Australian Navy as a trainee cook.
I am very interested in computer technology especially the development of the internet, being involved in a number of "garden" related "News groups". I find this medium brings all of us much closer together, as we help each other with any variety of problems or issues.
I have made very many "Cyber Pals" from my contacts on the World Wide Web, and my contact list continues to grow.
Unfortunately not all sectors of the Australian nation seem to be giving this medium the support that it needs, I think our current Governmental situation is too locked into heavy industry, mining and primary production.
My hobbies are:- Fishing, Gardening and Motor racing, as in V8 Touring cars, drag racing, NASCAR and the Oval dirt track sprint cars as a spectator , TV watching is mostly News and Current Affairs programs and Documentaries, and occassional visits to the Cinema, when I can visits to our magnificent Botanical Gardens.
WE LIVE IN A WORLD OF CHOICES
Of recent times I reached that threshold where I needed to make those choices, that we as adults need to make from time to time.
My choice basically was to keep going along the way I was proceeding or to choose to change so I could still be the Husband, Father, Grandfather, my family wanted and that I needed to be.
We need to take ownership of our issues and work toward change
The need is to change yourself for yourself first and foremost, changing yourself for others then comes next in line, the priority then is to change for your families sake.
Many of us have our lives manipulated by upbringing issues, the pressures of modern day living and many habits that impact on our ability to be who we need to be for our own sake and for the sake of those around who we hold near and dear.
The underlying habits that impact on our lives in negative ways can be issues of:
2.. Consumerism, Yuppyism and Affluenza.
3.. Poor/Low Self Esteem/Vanity.
4.. Then we commonly use Anger and Perceptions of others to defend our own weeknesses and issues.
I used many tools available to help one find ones way in life, first was to find a councellor who was interested and knowledgable enough to deal in the realms of "cause" and "effect", and to also then help me in such way that I still had at least equal footing in the councelling process.
that is when in councelling you need not to be further manipulated but guided through paths that will lead to a positive result.
Too often councelling is based around identifying one of your problems (which are realy effects) and making that the cause and then attempting to alter that habit with the intent that at the end your personnal problems will be resolved.
Often people are reffered to "Anger Management" and "Alcohol Rehabilitation" programs, usually all to no long term avail, as these processes to me became just another crutch to replace a crutch.
In my experience this is doomed to failure as when that new crutch becomes meaningless then the whole sad dilemna begins all over again.
In short I found that once I was getting the right sort of help, i was then able to deal with and resolve all those issues that had become my defenses and habits, beginning with the low self esteem from my upbringing with an alcoholic father and a dominating mother.
Once I had resloved those issues with lots of help ie.,. my councellor was of Christian beliefs, and I found my way back to Christ with the help of a Lay Preacher, I was able to get rid of all those things that had become my crutches and clouded my ability to be the things I needed to be to my family.
No I did not need to attend Alcohol rehabilitation, I simply stopped drinking and never have had the urge to drink again, much as I did when i stopped smoking 2 decades ago. I simply don't need them in my life, getting to here the hardest step was the first step, so it became a mind set assisted to a large degree by learning to read the Bible, I found lots of answers in the words of scriptures, especially so in reading "St Matthew" in the King James version of the Bible, i found these chapters were telling me what was expected of me as a man and a family man, thus highlighting what I was getting wrong.
My heart is now free from those distractions that clogged it and is now full of my lovely wife and our beautiful family, we lead a more simple happy life style no longer burdened with the shackles of consumerism manipulation, I have never had the urge to want an alcoholic drink again, most of my drinking is pure water.
To remember to form a perception is to make a judgement on another and as is said in "St. Matthew 7:1-5; 1 Corinthians 11:31,32; Romans 2: 1-4" "Judge not that ye be not judged"
Once that first step had been taken the process became simple and easy, as it is akin to bringing a light into your life, a light that helps you through the issues faced by modern man.
To be a Christian all God requires is that we follow his commandments (as written in the King James version of the Holy Scriptures), too easy really!
THE TEN COMMANDMENTS
1. Thou shalt have no other gods before
2. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth: Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; And showing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.
3. Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain: for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.
4. Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days shalt thou labor, and do all thy work: But the seventh day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates: For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day, and hallowed it.
5. Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
6. Thou shalt not kill.
7. Thou shalt not commit adultery.
8. Thou shalt not steal.
9. Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.
10. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbor’s.
King James Bible
The following scans taken from "The Great Controversy" by E.G. White:
Again seek the Truth in Scriptures, listen to no man.
My councellor mainly because of his convictions, only led me to the path I must walk, I no longer need his services, he has done his job.
As each day passes my values keep changing for the better and better, things that distracted me and drew my attention in the past now no longer hold any significance, it is a sense that just seems to grow naturally.
In relationships each has their own issues to be dealt with, so in that light then each must take ownership of their own issues, and focus all efforts onto dealing with those issues.
There is no room for blaming or finger pointing, if you are to succeed then you need to remain focused, the rewards for me are the best I could ever have prayed for.
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